I don’t often write personal blogs, but my lovely husband Des died unexpectedly this weekend and posts may be erratic for a while to come.
I’m planning on planting snowdrops where his ashes will be scattered, and although he wasn’t a keen gardener, I’ll be able to sit with a cup of coffee and cake (cake being one of his true loves in life!) and think of him at snowdrop time in the years ahead.
RIP Des 1962-2014
Naomi
So very, very sad at this news for you.xxxxlis
I’m so very, very sorry for your great loss. There simply aren’t adequate words, dear Naomi, but please know that there are people out here you don’t know who love and are touched by your words and we’re sending lots of love your way. We’ll be here waiting for your return whenever you’re ready. Take care – and enjoy that cake. 🙂
Farmgirl Susan has said everything I wanted to say to you. My deepest sympathies. Kerry from Australia x
May his soul rip
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Naomi this is Jakki Moxham here Des’s former boss. You will remember we met a couple of times. I am very very sorry indeed to hear of his death – such a shock and a terrible loss. As I’m sure he told you, he and I had a good working relationship and what I hope was mutual respect for one another – certainly I valued him very highly as an intelligent and supportive colleague and greatly enjoyed working with him. He added levity and a grounded common sense to our team, always quick to recognise the essential absurdity of office and bureaucratic life.
I would be grateful if you could inform me of details of his funeral or memorial as I would very much like to pay my respects.
With sympathy and best wishes to your and your family
Jakki
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we thinking of you at this time Noami and sending God’s arms around you and the family at this time from Linda and David xx
Sending you love and strength and hoping your love of nature brings you solace
Oh dear, this is really bad news. It’s always happening too soon. Lot’s of love and strength to you
Sending love and support at this desperately sad time. Xx
I’m am very sorry to hear your sad news. It’s going to be a lovely way of remembering him. Keep strong brave lady x x
So so sorry for your loss , good luck
Dear Naomi, I am so very sorry to read this, my thoughts and prayers are with you. xx
So sorry for your tragic loss. What a beautiful way to remember him x
I am so very sorry to hear your news. Take care of yourself. Chris.
Oh Naomi, I was so happy to see a post from you, so very, very sad to read your news. Sending you love, look after yourself, will be thinking of you.
Sending you sympathy and warmth. Such sad news. Please remember to look after yourself in the coming weeks. The snowdrops will be a beautiful memorial.
What very sad news. I am one of your readers and, although we have many friends in common, I have never had the chance to meet you or Des.
Nevertheless, such news affects us all. My snowdrops are flourishing now and I shall think of unexpected winter sorrows whenever I see them.
With best wishes and much sadness,
Liz Lambert in Canonbury
Vous êtes mon rayon de soleil dans le jardin!
Je suis désolée de voir que le malheur vous touche ainsi…
J’aimerais vous envoyer.à mon tour beaucoup de chaleur et d’énergie !
Je penserai à vous deux!
Courage…
Annie de France
Ah snowdrops, cake and the love of a good woman, he will be greatly missed. Our thoughts are with you, so very, very sad.
So sorry to hear your sad news. The snowdrops are a lovely idea.
Annette xx
xxx love berg from St C xxxxxxxxx
Such very sad news. Our deepest condolences to you. X
Dear Naomi – We met with Tanya in Somerset. I am so very sorry to hear your sad news. Please know we are thinking of you and sending you much love. Kate and Peter Robinson xx
My heart goes out to you. Devastating news. I hope you have family and friends offering love and care.
Such sad news. Be strong and time will heal the rawness of your grief, and you will look forward to the arrival of the snowdrops as a reminder of your husband and not of your loss.
I cannot find the right words to say…such a huge shock …my thoughts are with you ..xx
I am so very sorry. Thinking of you and wishing you the very best.
Our deepest sympathies and thoughts are with you. X
So sorry to hear this very sad news. Deepest sympathies.
Dearest Naomi
I am so sorry for the loss of your beloved husband and my thoughts are with you.
Sue
Sorry to hear of your sad loss sends {{{HUGS}}}.
I am so sorry to read about your husband’s sudden death. I am sending you loving thoughts of support at this difficult time. Xxxx
I am so sorry to hear this Naomi. You are in my thoughts and prayers. Your plans for snowdrops and cake are beautiful.
I am so very sorry to hear of your loss and your head will no doubt be all over the place. I have found that in times of great sadness often the first thing you loose interest in is the garden and the usual day to day activities, you may even think why bother but eventually things will become clearer for you. Gardens carry on growing and need nurturing and this then re-nurtures our souls. Hang on in there , all of us gardeners have plants that remind of us a loved one , for me it’s snowdrops (mother in law) camellia (auntie Nellie ) yellow roses ( auntie Joan’s wedding ) and the list goes on , so plant those snowdrops now ready for next year and they will reward you for evermore ! If you pm me I can send you a clump fromy garden ……I really mean it !
Just one request , keep blogging when you are ready . I don’t know how many followers you have but I for one look forward to them and I’m sure that many others do too . In the mean time be kind to yourself . Cheryl xxx
It was such a shock to hear of Des passing. Des was so well thought of by everyone who knew him and he will be sorely missed. My deepest sympathy is with you at this very sad and difficult time. My thoughts are with you all.
I am so sorry. Shall miss your blog but quite understand it’s too much for now. It has been a great inspiration . All sympathy Susan Lynn
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Bonjour Naomi,
C’est un vrai choc, je suis vraiment désolée et trés triste pour toi.
Je ne connaissais pas ton mari mais d’après ce que m’a dit ta maman,
lors d’un passage à Londres, vous formiez un beau couple et elle
semblait apprécier son humour.
Merci pour ton message, je t’embrasse bien fort.
Fatima
We’re very sorry to hear this, Naomi – well be thinking of you!
Let us know if we can help in any way, in the garden maybe?
Chris and Pat.
I am so, so sorry for your loss xx
Well done on doing a lovely, simple blog post in such difficult circumstances. The comments from around the world are very touching and I hope you know how much everyone cares about you. Snowdrops are perfect. xxx
I was so sorry to read this sad news. Your brave and practical approach is admirable but do give yourself time to feel the loss and live through the grief, rather than burying it – even under such optimistic little flowers.
With very best wishes,
DIANA
That is so sad. Your blog. gives me so much pleasure, it’s a jolt to hear of your loss and realize that it’s not all a bed of roses and other flowers for you. The snow drops will be a lovely reminder – they’ll come back reliably every year and they’ll multiply. Small comort at thee moment. All my sympathy. Deborah
So sorry to hear of your loss. Our thoughts are with you.
So sorry to hear your very sad news. I hope that you will indeed find solace in your love of nature and the snowdrop planting.. look after yourself, Rossana
I am so sorry to hear of your sad loss. Words are so unsubstantial at this time but my thoughts and sympathies are with you.
Dear Naomi – I’m so very sorry to read your sad news this morning. Will be thinking of you and wishing you all the strength that you will need at such a time.Take care of yourself ((((()))))
I am so sorry to hear about the loss of your husband. May your beliefs, family and friends give you the strength to move forward. Your readers will be thinking of you and will look forward to your return when it is right for you.
Dear Naomi, this has taken my breath away, I am so very sorry for the loss of your husband and my thoughts and prayers are with you.
Victoria
I am so sorry for your loss. I think snowdrops and cake are a perfect combination for remembrance. MY thoughts are with you.
MY deepest condolences to you and your family. My heart goes out to you. Wishing you the very best. The snowdrops are a beautiful idea.
Snowdrops mean hope. I can’t think of a better flower to mark these sad times.
xxx
Dear Naomi,My thoughts and prayers are with you at this sad time from Brendan
Dearest Naomi, we still can’t believe that lovely Des is gone and that he was taken from you so suddenly. We were lucky to have had such wonderful years as your neighbours and will always remember Des’ great sense of humour. What a shock. We’re thinking of you so much and sending our love. Whenever I see snowdrops now I will always think of Des x
I am so sorry and though I don’t have the words to express it, you will be in the thoughts and prayers of all your readers.
I am so sorry to hear about this. That’s just awful. I will be praying for you this morning.
Oh Naomi. This is such desperately awful news and so unfair. My thoughts are with you at this tough time.
My thoughts are with you, I’m so sorry to hear your news. I hope you have all the support you need. I’m still gardening next door to where I met you in Holland Park and hope one day we bump into each other again. Take care
So sorry to hear this sad news. We were talking this morning about what an inspiration you and your project are – only to get home to read your blog. I know you’ll get back to gardening and find comfort in it some time in the future.
We haven’t met, but condolences on your loss.
So sorry to hear of your loss. Planting snowdrops is a wonderful idea. X
So, so sorry Naomi , very sad news .
My husband’s name is Des too Naomi – so your post hit a special place for me. My deepest condolences.
Dear Naomi. I am sure that these posts will provide you with some comfort at this very difficult time & in the future My thoughts are with you. Jacqueline
I was so sorry to hear your sad news about your husband. Please look after yourself.
It was a shock to read your post. For you and your family, the shock will be immeasurable. He was no age at all. I am so sorry for your loss. D.
This was the saddest thing to read.
Feel so sad for you.
So very sorry to hear of your loss,take comfort from those around you and take care of yourself x
I am so sorry, you have my sympathies and prayers.
Elena Brady
My thoughts are with you, so sorry about your loss, RIP
I am so incredibly sorry to hear your sad news. However, it seems that you are already coping in a very healthy way by focusing on how you will positively remember him. I’m sure he’d be very happy you are remembering him with some cake! Take care, I know this will be a very difficult grieving process for you, but try to focus on the positives and those will really get you through.
It’s lovely to see such a big response from readers, all our thoughts are with you.
I am sorry you have had such a terrible loss. The many words of sympathy here show how many people have been touched by your writing and your projects, me among them. We’ll all be here if and when you feel like writing again, whenever that may be. I hope planting your snowdrops brings you at least some moments of peace.
Naomi
I met you at Tanya’s this summer and you are coming to speak to the gardening club in Castle Cary. I am just so sorry. You are very much in my mind. There is almost nothing one can say when things like this happen. With kindest wishes. Lynn bookshop and dog called Caleb.
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I was so saddened to read your blog this morning. I send you a big and gentle gardeners hug, at this terribly sad time. Sally x
I’m so shocked and sad to hear about Des, he was a joy to work with, a great colleague. Snowdrops seem perfect. Take care of yourself.
Very sincere sympathy on your loss
Robert
So sorry for your loss Naomi. May he rest in peace in your garden of snowdrops and love.
Dear Naomi,
So very sorry to hear your heartbreaking news. I hope that all the love and good energy that we are all sending to you will bring you comfort at this very sad time. This poem has helped me a lot over the years when Ioved ones have passed away.
Miss me…
When I come to the end of the road
And the sun has set for me,
I want no tears in a gloom-filled room,
Why cry for a soul set free?
Miss me a little – But not for long
And not with your head bowed low,
Remember the love that we once shared,
Miss me – But let me go.
For this is a journey we all must take,
And each must go alone,
It’s all a part of the Master’s plan
A step on the road to home.
When you are lonely and sick of heart
Go to your friends that we know,
And bury your sorrows in doing good works,
Miss me – But let me go.
Naomi – gardening brings such solace, and many friends
What a shock. I am so sorry. My thoughts are with you, may strength and love be yours as you need them.
Really sorry to hear that. Our thoughts are with you. Deepest sympathies.
Naomi, I was shocked to read this news, I just can’t believe it. I really feel for you. I remember him as a lovely,lovely man even though I hadn’t seen him for years. I’ll be thinking of you xx Fiona Quinton
As a new reader of your blog I would like to send my condolences for your sad loss, be kind yo yourself, I will look forward to your return when you feel able.
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I’m so very sorry to read your news. May the snowdrops and all the blossoms and buds and twigs hold you gently.
Dear Naomi, I’ve come here via Anna’s blog. We don’t know each other but I just felt compelled to leave a message of sympathy for you on this very sad news. Take care of yourself.
Jeanne
Oh my Dear I am so sorry. God bless you.
Dear Naomi. Such awful, devastating news is almost impossible to take in. I am so shocked and sad for you. Much love.
I lost my husband 4 years ago so I can imagine a little how you feel. We opted for a burial in a field that will one day be a bluebell wood so I planted English bluebells from my mothers and my daughter’s gardens. Grief comes and goes and only time can ease the hurting and it does eventually.
So sorry and shocked to hear this. Des was always fun when we met and I wish you all strength at this time. Much love to you
I’m so sorry to hear this sad sad news. I know you’ll find some comfort in your gardening in the months to come, but those days must feel very far away just now. Take care of yourself. Warm regards, Elizabeth
I am so very sorry. My husband died vey unexpectedly and there is no way to reconcile it. Eventually gardening becomes a therapy but the day to day living is so very difficult. I offer you up in my prayers.
I’m so sorry for your loss. Take good care of yourself.
Dear Naomi, It’s been a long while since Sutton days and high-up living in Holborn….it was a lovely surprise to read about you and Veg Street in the latest ‘Garden’ (I’m now a gardener too), wonderful to discover your blog from that…and I was so, so sorry to read your sad news.You’ve been much in my thoughts all week…wishing you all the strength and support you need at this time, .. and the peace of the garden. Love, and take good care x
Dear Naomi, I am a friend of Jakki Moxham and she sent me details of your blog which I have enjoyed following for a couple of years now. I am sorry to hear of your loss and look forward to further blogs when you feel up to it. love from Anne Nicolson
So sorry for your loss. It’s so sad and unfair. Take care of yourself , I’ll be praying for you . xx
Isabelle
You click on a blog and meet tragedy. Life kicks you in the teeth when you least expect it. Please accept the condolences of someone you do not know and will probably never meet. God be with you.
Blessings dear Naomi, May the angels keep you tight at this sad time. Jane